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[hms42]

Engagement Update -

While attempting to plan the wedding with my fiancee we decided to go our separate ways before we ended up being bitter with each other and each others families. We figured out that we have both changed more than expected over the past few years and we are no longer as compatible as we used to be.

We will remain friends and on good terms vs going forward and having a bitter breakup. We still plan to dance at each others wedding.

Comments

[ladymondegreen.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear it. I hope this won't cloud your friendship in the future.

[hms42]

It won't. If it had continued, it would have likely caused major problems.

[hsifyppah.livejournal.com]

Oh dear, that's never easy. (hug)

[hms42]

Thank you. No, its not easy, but its the right choice.

[otherdeb.livejournal.com]

Oh, dear. I am so sorry to hear that, but wish you (and her) well. It is, perhaps, not the easiest thing to remain friends, but it can be done.

[hms42]

Thank you for the well wishes. We at least realized it before it turned bitter for both of us and our families. She is a wonderful person and a very nice lady. We just are not the right one for each other.

We intend to try to remain friends.

[madfilkentist]

That sucks. But as you say, it's better to recognize it before making even more of a commitment.

[sodyera.livejournal.com]

Didn't even know you were engaged. Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but it's best to realise this before the commitment rather than after. Perhaps all any of us really has is friendship.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear it worked out this way, but (as you say), better now when you're still friends.

*hug*

[hms42]

True. Thank you.

[thnidu.livejournal.com]

I am sorry to hear of it, but ... what filkerdave said.

[catsittingstill.livejournal.com]

You have my sympathy for this newly discovered change in your relationship, and my admiration for courageously acting on your mutual discovery instead of coasting into an unsuitable marriage.

(I guess that sounds kind of pompous, but I just can't think of a better way to put it. Except maybe "I'm sorry but I think you done good.")

[hms42]

Thank you. It was not the easy choice but the right choice.

[pondside.livejournal.com]

Hugs.

I wish you both well and that your friendship sustains you both in the years to come.